Finding Ourselves Most of us spend a fair amount of our lives “finding ourselves.” What are we really trying to find? Whether it is determining our roles in our relationships or finding our life’s purpose; to determining our vocation and contribution; to finding our spiritual or religious beliefs. So much of what shapes us is … Read more
Forgiveness Forgiveness is relevant in every aspect of life. Not only as it relates to big hurts but most commonly the day to day ones that accumulate over time and magnify old wounds. The most important forgiveness work involves forgiving oneself. So much of what people (you, your clients, friends, colleagues, family etc…) are angry … Read more
What if We Told the Unvarnished Truth? There is something about honesty that is both simple and complex. It is perhaps necessary and socially acceptable to not always share our genuine thoughts like: “I don’t like the gift you gave me.” “You look fat in those jeans.” These are examples of the harm being very … Read more
Manipulation and Getting Our Needs Met! When we say someone is manipulative we are often taking a short cut. As people and as clinicians we often describe someone as manipulative as a means to describe undesirable and unbecoming behavior. The fact is when we feel that someone is manipulative, what we are suggesting is that … Read more
