How to Get Your Life Together

Okay so I don’t know definitively how to get my life together. But I’ve been working on it. As a therapist, I have come to accept that in life there are themes and in some cases perpetual issues that show up. Those issues persist until we address them and cultivate a new way forward. I’m … Read more

What Does it Mean to be “Nice”?

How Do You Have So Many Friends? My Oncologist asks me this question almost every time I see him: “How do you have so many friends?” He spelled out the longer version of that question, or his implied question, today by saying, “If I got sick, would I know if I’d have any friends to … Read more

Colorism and Proximity to Whiteness

Space at the Table I consider myself to be an advocate for black women in regard to some of life’s challenges that are unique to us. Some of the challenges may be universal to all, in the sense that other people of various cultural identities can relate. What I really mean to say is that … Read more

Leveling Up

It’s not easy to shift your work/life into a different gear. What is easy is staying in the same day-to-day routines. The truth is, if you want different results you have to do something different. Often leveling up requires us to not just do one thing, but many things differently. So where should you start? … Read more