Why Aren’t You Married?

Baffling Question Sometimes people ask me why I am not married. I find this question to be as baffling as someone walking up to me and asking why I’m not wearing aqua blue? What is at the heart of this question? Is it a comment on one’s ideal-ness for marriage? Is it a question of … Read more

Learning to Live Without

Today I listened to an NPR podcast that was recommended by a colleague. It is not for those offended by profanity, so please listen at your own risk. What I can tell you is that it was so very engaging, sad and thought provoking that I listened to all seven episodes without stopping. I listened … Read more

On Commitment…a Container for Your Life

Dating vs. Hanging Out Yesterday, one of the counselors I have supervised asked the question “What is dating versus hanging out?”  I am grateful for this supervisee/former graduate student of mine…he learns the art of therapy best by talking about life. He’d been observing people and reflecting on the challenges they face in their relationships. … Read more