You Don’t Have to Earn What You Love

I think a lot of people are still waiting for some imagined future before incorporating more of what they love into their day to day life. Whether that imagined future involves retirement, summer vacation, when your kids graduate, when you partner/marry, when you separate or divorce, or when you lose weight or gain muscle…when we … Read more

Why Therapeutic Boundaries Still Matter

I am not placing blame on anyone. The truth is I don’t know if it even matters how this long-held standard in therapy began to unravel. What I do know is that therapeutic boundaries for people who are practicing psychotherapy still matter. What I am also clear about is that the pressure to erode those … Read more

Lifeboats, Boundaries and Self Preservation

Recently I made the difficult decision to reduce my sense of responsibility for someone I love. It was the most difficult decision I’ve had to make in a long line of challenging life circumstances. It is a problem that so many people face on a day to day basis. Our therapy clients come in with … Read more

Why do you want to be a Psychotherapist?

What is the reason you want(ed) to be a Counselor/Psychotherapist? In my ten years of teaching counseling graduate students, there were some common themes in response to the question(s) about why they wanted to be a counselor/psychotherapist. In no particular order the responses were typically as follows: People come to me with their problems. Everyone … Read more