You Don’t Have to Earn What You Love

I think a lot of people are still waiting for some imagined future before incorporating more of what they love into their day to day life. Whether that imagined future involves retirement, summer vacation, when your kids graduate, when you partner/marry, when you separate or divorce, or when you lose weight or gain muscle…when we … Read more

Why Therapeutic Boundaries Still Matter

I am not placing blame on anyone. The truth is I don’t know if it even matters how this long-held standard in therapy began to unravel. What I do know is that therapeutic boundaries for people who are practicing psychotherapy still matter. What I am also clear about is that the pressure to erode those … Read more

Lifeboats, Boundaries and Self Preservation

Recently I made the difficult decision to reduce my sense of responsibility for someone I love. It was the most difficult decision I’ve had to make in a long line of challenging life circumstances. It is a problem that so many people face on a day to day basis. Our therapy clients come in with … Read more

Getting What You Want

Getting what you want is best achieved by centering what you need. Centering what you need is a process. In large part it depends on your values and the narratives you believe about who you are and who you are supposed to be. Effectively, your professional and personal development can be devoted to uncovering who … Read more