On Being a Leader

Being a leader isn’t about being perfect. Leading isn’t about always saying the right thing. It isn’t even about always being right. What leadership does require of us is to be fully aligned. Leadership requires authenticity. Leadership requires a capacity to give. It also requires a capacity to receive. Too many people who are in … Read more

Turning Toward vs. Turning Away

Turning Toward Life presents us with many opportunities to either turn toward  people or turn away  from them. When we “turn toward” people we are making a conscious decision to engage in the relationship. When you turn toward you are listening, showing interest and asking questions. At its best, turning toward is a sign of … Read more

Repairing Relationships

What Does it Take to Repair a Fractured Relationship?  Mutual commitment;  Acknowledgment of the problems;  An understanding of each person’s deeply held values;  A willingness to be vulnerable;  Sincere apologies;  Forgiveness; and  Possible reconciliation. Mutual Commitment One cannot repair what does not exist and we cannot force people to remain in any circumstance if it … Read more

Therapist’s Self Disclosure

Three Types of Therapist’s Self Disclosure There are various types of a therapist’s self disclosure. Some self disclosure is about the therapist’s personal history like family, relationships, and trauma. Another form is about the therapist’s values, which is something that might be disclosed at the outset of therapy if those values have an impact on … Read more