Getting What You Want

Getting what you want is best achieved by centering what you need. Centering what you need is a process. In large part it depends on your values and the narratives you believe about who you are and who you are supposed to be. Effectively, your professional and personal development can be devoted to uncovering who … Read more

Ashamed of Desire Itself

Moving in Silence Occasionally I see or hear people advising others to “move in silence”  and not share their plans or desires with others. While that may be a good strategy for protecting yourself, it is not a great strategy for gaining support. Perhaps there is some merit to the advice. Maybe everyone doesn’t need … Read more

Wants vs. Needs – An Approach to Goal Setting and Professional Development

What Do You Need? A vital element in goal setting involves assessment. If you don’t explore what you want alongside what you need, you can end up very dissatisfied with your results and likely abandon your goals all together. Your needs include: health, wellness and safety; fun, recreation and relaxation; social, family and love relationships; … Read more