Ashamed of Desire Itself

Moving in Silence Occasionally I see or hear people advising others to “move in silence”  and not share their plans or desires with others. While that may be a good strategy for protecting yourself, it is not a great strategy for gaining support. Perhaps there is some merit to the advice. Maybe everyone doesn’t need … Read more

When to Leave a Job and When to Stay

Work: Necessity or Choice? One of the most challenging decisions in one’s career is deciding when to leave a job. A person’s livelihood, whether it be their job or their own business, is vital to their well being. For most people, working is a necessity and a means to an income. Obviously without an income … Read more

The Fear of Being a Therapist

I don’t know what else to call it. So I am calling it “The Fear of Being a Therapist.” I’m finding that a number of beginning counselors and those who have been practicing for years hold a variety of fears that are crippling and overwhelming. These are the fears I hear about from beginning counselors … Read more

Stop Running, Stop Fighting, Stop Freezing

What Do You Really Want? There is something that you want to do, be, have or create. It could be anything but here are some of the most common things people are trying to achieve: a loving lifetime romantic relationship; or an engaging and fulfilling career; or perhaps you want to start or build a … Read more